When you find that you are trapped by the emotions that are triggered by past events, or you simply find that you wake up in the morning and find yourself gripped by anger, revenge, anxiety or worry, take comfort from the fact that you're not alone. This article is about increasing self acceptance, and the power of just being ok with yourself and where you are on your life journey.
We live in a fast-paced world and many people are finding that they are in this same situation. Through my experience as a Life Coach over the years, I have come to realise that one of the most important steps to take in dealing with constant emotions such as anxiety is acceptance.
We can use up a lot of energy in trying to hide how we really feel about situations. Anger, for instance, can be used to hide a feeling of inadequacy if we feel we are 'not enough'. Worry may manifest itself as a form of fear. One of the first things we should do is therefore look beyond the surface emotion to see what it is concealing.
What emotions are you going through? Are they pure, or are they hiding other, more deep-seated feelings you don't want to admit to? One technique to revealing our underlying emotions is to ask why five or more times. Asking why simply helps you to open up your mind, encouraging you to delve deeper and deeper into how you behave.
Once you've got to the deeper, underlying feelings, just for now, accept that they are there. Fully acknowledge them for what they are. Stare your insecurities squarely in the face, relax your body completely, let go completely, breathe out, drop your shoulders and fully accept what you see and what you feel...for now.
Increasing self acceptance is, essentially, about letting go of the fear behind the emotions you're experiencing. It is this fear that keeps you imprisoned. Let go of the fear and you're left with the physical manifestations of what you're experiencing, such as tension in different parts of the body, and the raw emotion. By getting rid of the fear, you can choose to view the emotion as a simple reaction to a situation that you can let go of as a matter of course when the time's right.
If you can get to a point of saying 'this, for now, is who and what I am...' and be OK with yourself for the time being, it becomes much easier to do something about neutralising the emotion. The neutralisation can come about through the use of such techniques as Sedona (releasing the emotion) and Emotional Freedom Therapy (a technique involving tapping acupressure points).
These techniques allow you to safely acknowledge exactly what your underlying emotions are, bring them to the surface and then release them from your energy system, sometimes permanently.
For more information on increasing self acceptance go to: http://www.stimulus.uk.com and arrange your free Life Coaching consultation.
Carmen Gilfillan is the founder of Stimulus Development & Training. Stimulus is dedicated to helping people raise their game, fulfil their potential and and live their best lives. We do this through Life & Wellness Coaching, as well as training in the areas of personal, professional and spiritual growth. Check out our website at http://www.stimulus.uk.com/Life_Coaching.html to book a free coaching consultation.
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