Joy - It's Not Quantum Physics!

This is not like a lesson in physics or quantum theory. What it is, however, is this: this is a lesson designed to show you, definitively, that the catalyst for your joy is a fundamental constant. How much joy we have depends on how much joy we want! Did you realize that? If you really want joy, then you'll have it.

Most people think in the context that joy is like the weather. Our joy is either hot or cold, present or absent, on or off. We incorrectly assume that fixed external factors determine the scale of joy we experience. We believe we have no personal, individual control over our joy.

We believe our joy results primarily from things like dollars in our wallets, the square footage of our homes, the cars in the garage, the carats in our diamonds, and other measures of apparent success. Not true.

Joy is something we regulate. Just like we turn the thermostat up to get more air conditioning in summer or more heat in winter, we can also adjust the amount of joy that we have in our lives at any given moment.

The dimension of joy is entirely up to you! It's completely your decision.

The degree of joy is all in your hands. There's nothing or no one keeping you from enjoying everyday joy.

The magnitude of your joy is completely under your control.

The Word speaks to us definitively about the source of full joy. Jesus had an abundance of the Father's joyfulness, and as we grow in Christ-likeness, we grow in His joy. These words, which were spoken about Jesus Christ by the Apostle Simon Peter, quote the prophetic words of David as recorded in Psalm 16:8-11.

Thou hast made known to me the ways of life; thou shalt make me full of joy with thy countenance.-Acts 2:28

Life! What a fascinating journey. Yet, unfortunately, too many of us listen to self-defeating words and discouragement. We are on the brink of experiencing the greatest deficit of joy that the world has ever known. Why? Because we are so accustomed of seeking joy in external things. Continual joy comes only from continually practicing His presence in our everyday lives.

It's time to get ready for your moment of unsurpassed joy! Can you sustain it? The goal is to make your joy last, not just for a moment-for a lifetime! In Christ, we enjoy God's presence and favor forever.

And, with that level of joy, suddenly-anything is possible.

© Regina M. Prude, 2011BP-Rev

Regina is an author, syndicated columnist, inspirational and motivational speaker, and self-proclaimed Chief Evangelist of Joy. She believes in the power of words to inspire, uplift, heal, strengthen and connect us with one another. Additional resources are available at her blog site: http://www.reginaprude.com/. To contact her for speaking engagements, please email her at regina@reginaprude.com.

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Five Tips for Staying Positive in a Negative World

It can be hard to be positive if you feel insecure. With these five tips, you'll find new ways to focus on staying positive, which can help you feel more certain in these uncertain times.

Tip #1 for Staying Positive: Remain Grateful

Rough times can cause even the most joyous of people to lose sight of what they have, simply because they get caught up in the race to reach what they want. When we get blocked from that goal, instead of staying positive, we stress out and the negativity begins to creep in once more. Instead of getting angry that you did not get what you wanted when you wanted it, turn that energy around, and turn it into gratitude for what you have already gained or achieved.

Tip #2 for Staying Positive: Embrace Challenges

Rather than looking at anything that gets in your way as a negative, one trick to staying positive is to embrace that negative as a challenge. Life is not easy, and you would be a fool to believe that everything worth having should be easy to get. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, put your creativity to work in finding a way around the obstacle, rather than letting it defeat you. Life would be very boring if everything came easy.

Tip #3 for Staying Positive: Keep your Perspective

Everyone is experiencing tough times right now, but it should not be anyone's downfall. The world has gotten through worse messes than the economy before, especially during times of war, and the global community will eventually get through it again. If you keep your perspective on what positive thing or event may be waiting for you on the horizon, you will take a lot of the stress off of your shoulders. Don't worry about things that have not happened yet, when you need to concentrate on staying positive, and finding energizing ways to handle what has already happened.

Tip #4 for Staying Positive: Seek Inspiration

In times like these, the most positive exercise that you can do is to begin a search for inspiration. Walk into any library or bookstore, and you will find hundreds of volumes detailing the lives and missions of those who faced adversity and triumphed. Money is tight, and jobs are disappearing, but that has happened before. Everything works in cycles, running from highs to lows, and those cycles eventually will give birth to new ideas, new industries, and new ways of making do with what we have. Instead of focusing on the negatives, use your creativity and insight to find ways for staying positive and get beyond it. You may find a passion that will help you get everything you need in this life.

Tip #5 for Staying Positive: The best way to help yourself is to help others

Many industries are experiencing shortfalls right now, but did you know that there are sectors today that are not? Volunteerism is at an all-time high right now, and while many may be looking at it as another notch they can add to the old resume, many are doing it because it is a way of keeping themselves in a positive mindset. Nothing makes a body feel better than helping someone out and you can use those good feelings as fuel to keep yourself above the floodwaters as well.

Tony is a life coach who has helped people double their income, increase their value in the community and develop amazing relationships with family and friends. His website has many sources of help to accelerate your success. http://www.themoneymakingmindset.com/

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Breath New Life Into You

Every single day we wake up and determine what we need (or want) to do on that given day. Perhaps we already have plans or responsibilities. Maybe we are one of the lucky ones who have the opportunity to decide day by day...in the moment. Either way, while making your decision for the day, do you base that decision on what you have to do, what will make your day go well, or only on how you feel in the moment? Being able to decide how your day begins, determines how it ends...and the rewards are endless.

Obviously, people have obligations that demand their attention. It's in 'how' they take on those responsibilities that matter the most. For instance, you have a job that requires you wake up every day at 6:00 am. You're not a morning person, so you stumble out of bed with a grim look at what today has in store. You don't want to feel this way, and you know in an hour or two your spirits will begin to perk up, but your head still hangs low for a time. Then again, maybe you love the idea of 'early to bed and early to rise' so 6:00 am is just the right time, but the place you must go to is less than satisfying. The situation can make for a lot of hard work to get in a good place; physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Here's one option to change the way you look at your day: "Tomorrow you have the potential to be homeless, helpless, or gone." With those options available for tomorrow, wouldn't it be best to make the most out of your day? It's true, you know. You could be in worse shape by tomorrow. Just take a look at those around you...or worse yet...think about those who are now gone from your life because of the economy pushing them down, unfortunate accidents, irreplaceable actions, and dreadful disease. Start being grateful now...right now.

"No one ever said life was fair." Parents used to tell their children that when they didn't get what they wanted and had to do without. Although we survived without some of those things, many of us still didn't learn to live like there's no tomorrow. Hopefully, with wisdom and experience, we do look around us and see the heaviness of life, and realize why our parents and grandparents felt the way they did; probably the depression, war, and other changes to the world had a lot to do with it.

And so we continue on the path of worry, anger, agitation, or upset about the world around us. Hitting a 'low point' on occasion is very easy to do. Just look! The world is not the same as it was years ago. People are not the same. Times have changed...some for the good and some not so good.

Someone once told me that I 'need to learn to care less.' NOT care a less, but care less. It took a long time for me to understand what that meant. It has nothing to do with not loving the people who care about you; however, it is about giving up the ideals in your head of what should be. It's about learning to 'let go' of what troubles you and start living as the day unfolds.

There are a couple of things that happen with caring less. First, you stop fretting over what isn't working in your life by focusing your efforts elsewhere, and secondly, if you're not getting what you want in a particular situation or relationship, it generally turns around to greet you, more on your terms. Why? Because it wasn't forced; you stepped back and allowed the moment to unfold...just like your day.

So remind yourself each morning: Tomorrow you could be homeless, helpless, or gone. Be grateful for what you have in the moment; then, go start your day with high expectations. Tell yourself, "It's going to be a good day!"

Kimberly Mitchell is the author of Loving with Purpose and writer for such venues as http://lovingwithpurpose.org/, Examiner, and other reputable sites offering advice.

As an entrepreneurial relationship contributor and student of life, she believes that good or bad, personal experience is the best teacher. Her history of talents range from producing and presenting personal development, diversity, and business solutions for company leaders to website and graphic design of company material. Her combination of skills provided opportunities to achieve success personally and professionally.

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Control Your Thoughts As I Do Mine, For We All Become What We Think About

Sure, I lifted the title off an Earl Nightingale seminar, but that is the reality we all as human beings can all agree on. We all become what we do think about and do while thinking about it a majority of the time. If we did not, then, reality would really be just pure random chance. But it is not. It works like we make it work through our thoughts and actions, in that order. Sure, even if you do not agree with me or want to admit this reality, it is how life and existence does work. If life and existence did not work like that, then everyone would be uniformly rich or poor without exceptions and life would be based on pure fate without a chance to improve or get worse. Anyone with normal intelligence knows that the facts are different, that as long as there is a chance to improve, there is always a chance to improve as long as there are variables that can be adjusted somehow. So, as long as we think genuinely independently, we do become our thoughts and actions.

Sure, I could be more technical, but, I want this to be understood, not read and then almost everyone says to themselves in some form, "it sounds nice, but it cannot be put into practice." Realistically, it has to be understandable to be put into practice anyhow. So, think in these terms, if you can think, control your thoughts well, for they determine everything in your life including your actions beyond random chance. Let me put it this way, the better you control your thoughts, the less random chance has to do with it. Come on, though, I am not saying that random chance and margins are totally out of the picture or reality here, but I am saying that things are controllable to the extent that we use our consciousness, thoughts and actions productively in that order.

Sure, I am not saying that it is easy in any way though. I am just saying that things are controllable to the extent that we use our consciousness, thoughts and actions productively. Productively does not mean the same as "easy" or "hard", it just means productively as opposed to destructively. Productive is good, destructive is bad, those are the realistic semantics I am getting at. That last sentence, right there is as technical as I get in this article, because I want everyone to understand and understand in a deeply realistic way what I am getting at in this article. I am only getting technical near the end too, because the core message has been given. Sure, there are three paragraphs to this article that do count as "beginning", "middle" and "end", but realistically, this whole article is really just the beginning to the reality of this subject until put into practice in a permanently working way. When it is that, it is definitely on track forever. But until then, consider this article the beginning. As for the end, well it never ends. Effort and vigilance are forever, so is creativity and realistic productivity. For, it starts with thinking and ends in rational action in the sense that we all must do what we have to do. I end there, but, I hope I have stimulated and informed you of a full reality of the situation in this article. Note that I said "a full reality" and not "the full reality", because "the full" implies that there is a limit, "a full" means that there are other facets and limitless pieces to the puzzle picture before it even reaches close to being fulfilled and "put together" so to speak. This may seem like more semantics and meanings, but realistically, being thorough and honest is what makes it all worthwhile. Thought, action and fulfillment go together like that like puzzle pieces that work together.

My name is Joshua Clayton, I am a freelance writer based in Inglewood, California. I also write under a few pen-names and aliases, but Joshua Clayton is my real name, and I write by that for the most part now. I am a philosophical writer and objective thinker and honest action taker. I also work at a senior center in Gardena, California as my day job, among other things, but primarily I am a writer.

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Prosperity Affirmations - I See Therefore I Am!

Mirror, Mirror on the wall...

Affirmations: what are they and how should I use them? The word "affirmation" carries the meaning of "a statement saying 'yes' to a situation." If your situation is one of being overweight, a possible affirmation could be "I am now a healthy weight for my body, age and lifestyle." "How can you say that?" you might ask. "It's just not true. At this particular moment I am NOT a healthy weight." Yes, yes, but the point of an affirmation is not to talk about the future, but state the situation as you WANT it to be NOW, without injecting desire into the statement. If you were to say "I will become a healthy weight for my body, age and lifestyle," it future-izes the situation, meaning that it can't be true, ever, because it is stated as a future situation. The future never comes; it's always just beyond reach. Just trust that the Universe will make it true for you.

The best way to state your affirmation is by looking into a mirror (your bathroom mirror is good because (1) you can lock the door, (2) you don't need to speak loudly to hear yourself, and (3) you spend some moments in front of it at least twice a day, while brushing your teeth). This won't take long after the first time. The first time you must gaze into your own face with love and acceptance as you are today. That may take a moment for some people. We're trained as children to look for the faults rather than the assets. Take your time. Look and, when you feel the love, smile at yourself as you would at a new friend you feel will be a best friend. Then with deliberate intensity recite your affirmation at least three times.

If you compose a good affirmation, and continue to say it twice (or more often) per day, you will see results within three weeks. I don't know why three weeks is the time it takes, but that it is. Think about it, however, like this: what you are using is your own time. If you follow this prescription that time will add up to less than a total hour over three weeks (2 minutes/day plus composing time), and you will have affected a change in your life painlessly. Okay, now repeat after me: "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the best, happiest and most beautiful of all? I am, I am, I am!!"

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Say Hello To Your Life And Be Grateful

Life is a teacher, especially when you are ungrateful. Life is a friend when you are grateful. This, in essence is what this article is about. It is also about the power of gratitude to cause the best to happen in life. Existence definitely counts in the sense of energy and energies. To be genuinely grateful in my reality and I think reality otherwise does not mean to be silly in any way, it just means to be consistently the best, work for the best and look for the best in all things and situations in life and existence. In short, we genuinely do become what we consistently think about. Sure, that sounds silly to some who read this. But, think about it, when you consider the genuine becoming and reality of life, I am right in many to all ways about this subject. I will explain in the paragraphs below.

Life and existence are made up of energy, energy we do not create, but that we do control and control fully as we can tell by the beginning progress that seems amazing in life in even this civilization so far. Genuine progress is limitless though and infinite, sure there is a limit to understanding, but not to eternal progress through eternal time in existence. Sure, consciousness is the great controller in that it can endlessly and inductively think and create, and there is no limit to the creation of reality, absolutely none. So, get this in your mind, as there is a genuinely endless abundance of energy, there is a genuinely endless abundance of wealth to be earned creatively in existence. Competition only makes it seem like there is an end and limit to all things and realities.

So, I repeat, life is a teacher, and a stern one when you are not gracious to it. But when you are grateful, life is your best friend and helpful reality. Sure, as you read deeply, you are beginning to know what I mean by these statements and realities. So, say hello to your life consistently in a friendly way and be grateful, for that is the power within you to create a great life.

Ralph Waldo Emerson was an incurable optimist; Thomas Carlyle was an incurable pessimist. Although they were great writing men, both of them, and I have read them both deeply, I prefer Emerson and his genuinely highly optimistic philosophy over Carlyle and his pessimism, especially prevalent in his opinions about history and its consequences. Although, I do agree with the "all is one as one is all" reality that they both have; although Carlyle sounds more "realistic and logical", Emerson can be genuinely transcendent. I will end by telling you why: If you think about good things, reflect on the good despite appearances, you will ultimately get the good and make yourself a genuine Master Mind on the side of the good.

If you think about bad things, reflect on the bad, and go by appearances, you will be a weakling in a total sense. So, I prefer to be strong and happy, so like Ralph Waldo Emerson and even more so than Ralph Waldo Emerson, I am an incurable optimist by choice and by reality, in that order. But, I cannot choose for you, you must choose with your consciousness what you want to be for yourself. Personal choice is always the key. It all starts with the thoughts we have about any situation. So, when I say in the title of this piece "Say hello to your life and be grateful", this is what I mean. To put this key in other words, when we welcome good in any form, we get good. I will end there and let you do your own thinking about reality, but know this: Good or bad, we do it to ourselves.

My name is Joshua Clayton, I am a freelance writer based in Inglewood, California. I also write under a few pen-names and aliases, but Joshua Clayton is my real name, and I write by that for the most part now. I am a philosophical writer and objective thinker and honest action taker.
I also work at a senior center in Gardena, California as my day job, among other things, but primarily I am a writer.

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Decide Now to Unleash Your Potential

I truly believe that we all have an insurmountable potential. I also think that we often settle for what is comfortable. Why? Perhaps we appreciate the sense of 'safety' we get from being relatively stable. Also, we often believe what someone has told us at one point or another, disparaging comments that put us down so often, that we don't know how to get up. Whatever the reason, I have seen how people come from nowhere to reach and achieve more than anyone could even imagine. How? There are times in life when we face those barriers and we simply say "enough."

While many of us have learned to live within certain boundaries, on what I call a cocoon zone, I want to speak today to those that although living a relatively good and peaceful life, they know deep inside that there has to be more to it. The first concept I want to bring up to your attention is that in order to break out of that zone, you have to be ready, willing and open. Your mind must be open to learning and developing and realizing that you have what it takes to do it what you want.

"Minds are like parachutes - they only function when open." ~Thomas Dewar.

In order to get to that point, I would encourage you to take time every day for the next week or so and reconnect with what matters to you. Think long and heavy about what it means to you to live fully. Not to others, not trying to fit in and not concerned about what others might say or think. When you are able to find that passion, you are then on your way to unleash your potential.

Unleash...synonym of 'let loose,' 'set free,' and 'allow to run riot'. To me unleashing means to let go of, releasing and just experiencing that feeling of no restraints. When you apply that concept into your life and your potential, then we could say that unleashing your potential refers to a state of letting go of the restraints that have limited you this far. And the great thing is, that there has never been a better time. With everything happening around us in the world, this is the perfect time to making that determination to fulfill your potential, on your own terms.

If you are ready to let go of anything that has hold you back until now, if you are making a commitment to make changes that will propel you and your life to a new level, I support you!

Here are my top 5 ideas on how to unleash your potential once and for all:

1. Connect within. By this I mean to work on a personal mission and vision statements for your life. Declare your intentions for what you want in life, both at personal and professional levels. Writing a mission statement is a tool used by organizations as it serves as a clear, public statement of why you exist and why you do what you do. Your vision statement outlines your big view, the big panoramic picture of what you what it to be for you and in your world.

My personal mission statement is "to support and empower individuals to create the life they love, one day at a time."

2. Identify your strengths and your areas of growth. Part of creating any plan for self-development includes a thorough assessment of what do we do well (you can put your gifts and talents to work in other areas) as well as those areas where we know we can improve some. By knowing and affirming the things you do well, you can take those as weapons to be used in two ways: a. challenging situations and b. where can you can use them more often?

3. Be true to your passions. It doesn't matter whether you have done it before, know how to do it, or think it is not possible. Your passions are the fuel for the gas tank. When you are true and decide to pursue your passions, really nothing can stand on your way because it becomes your source of energy, your motivation.

4. Be merciless. Once you know where you are going, you must commit. There are no ifs, buts or ands. Truth is that we often get on our way. We make excuses for getting sidetracked, and for not keeping up with the priorities you have set for yourself. Be brutally committed to your plan and besides the typical obstacles, you will be able to overcome.

5. Create a strategy. A life without a plan is like getting in a car without a destination. Sometimes, that might be fun but for the most part you want to be heading in the direction that is going to lead you to achieve those things you want in life. Develop a map of how to get from here to there.

I truly believe that it is critical to make the decision to embark on that journey to achieve our maximum potential. If we don't do it, no one else will because nobody can make that decision for us. You know you have so much to offer, isn't it time you make the determination to unleash that potential once and for all? Not to mention, imagine how great you will feel, how significant your life will be as you take the steps necessary to get what you want, how empowered you will be because once you start completing some of those tasks, you will be excited and ready for more, so yeah...what are you waiting for? It is within reach, your reach.

If you are stuck in a place where you can't get out. If you know that there is more to life and you want to experience it. If you know that the world will be a better place if you were able to do and to contribute more, but are not sure how to start, working with a Personal Development Coach might be just what you need.

© 2011 Maria Martinez

Create the Life You Want - Start Within. Maria Martinez is a Personal Development Coach; she works with individuals as they pursue goals to achieve greater levels of success. She is the Owner of INNERactive Coaching and provides individual and group coaching. To find out more about Life Coaching and other services, check out the website http://inneractivecoachingonline.com/.

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How You Can Turn Your Life Around With Living Life Quotes

If life isn't going so good for you right now then maybe you are ready for some resources and answers that don't cost a fortune, and they aren't hard to implement. This is what living life quotes is all about. Most everyone loves to read quotes. It makes them feel good and seems to give them a momentary release from the pressures of life. In addition to that they give people hope. Then finally there just seems to be something magical with a touch of romance to them.

The problem is although we get all this enjoyment out of quotes to live life by we don't recognize or use their power to make a difference in our lives. They truly can be life changing. In fact there are some very prominent people in life that have succeeded all because they read and applied a living life quote that meant something to them. We are constantly exposed to words in life, and as much as we like to tune a lot of them out, they still have an impact on us even without the action they implicate. For example, a creditor can tell us that he is going to take us to court, and even though he hasn't done it yet it strikes fear in our hearts. That's just one example of the power of words.

If you recognize the power they have then you will more readily accept that they can be applied to your life. Quotes aren't just reserved for some people. They are there for everyone and they have the same power for everyone. The difference is that some people know how to use them better than others. There are techniques for using living life quotes where you can set them into motion. This is the real challenge which means motivating yourself to learn how to do this. It really is easy and when you start applying living life quotes to your life its like getting up every morning and opening a Christmas present.

Some of the things that you need to learn is how to read the quotes then absorb them. Then you need to ponder on them then relate to them. Finally you need to apply them, but even this has specific ways to do it so you will get the most value out of them.

Something you need to be warned about is that living life quotes are contagious. Once you get them working for you and you see how they can change your life then you just go on with such motivation and enthusiasm applying more and more of them, its like a never ending snowball. The best part is this snowball rolls uphill as you increasingly watch your life get better.

Quotes to live life by can have a major impact on your life. Be sure to check out some of these great resources to help you quotes for living life

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Student Reflection

Introduction:

Being a student, we are told that student age is the golden age of a person's life. This golden age, as we are provided with it, doesn't hold all the goods in it. As a student we are faced with all the different challenges of life like any other struggling person would face. Then why call it a golden age? It's because of the experiences that we get to go through being a student that no one else does. Studying in an institute getting to know people with mutual interests and goals in life and working under a superior who will help us guide to the aim of our life, this doesn't happen in any other aspect of life where one gets to meet so many people who are trying for the same thing.

It is through these facets of the golden age that we get to learn so many things as a student. We are provided different challenges working as an individual and managing work in a group. The friendship that we have and how it is put at test when the same pals get to be rivals of each other.

In this report I'm discussing all those aspects that we go through in our life when we are going through the phase of the student age. What I went through in my last year of being a student and whatever I learned and plan to learn in the future from the mistakes I made in the past year.

As An Individual:

I learned that while working as an individual has its advantages, it also has some disadvantage. Nothing is perfect and doesn't come with all pros. When I mention the pros for working as an individual I would foremost like to mention that when one is working alone, they have all the authority to themselves. They can make decisions and wouldn't have to argue with anyone about following them. They are the leader and they are the follower. They set their own rules and then act upon them according to their desires. They don't have to wait for anyone and individual working gives a sense of independence to them and when they achieve something the achievement is all theirs. They can proudly receive what they achieved and keep it to themselves. It's all theirs. It's like being the only child of a family where you get all the toys and don't have to share them with anyone.

On the other hand, the cons that one faces in this part of life are that they have no one to motivate them. It sometimes feels like a burden when all the costs are on them and they don't have anyone to share their ideas with to make them better by brainstorming with other people. One would alone be responsible for any actions they take and then may regret them if something goes wrong when they won't have anyone to share the blame with.

As A Group Or Team:

When we're talking about group work most people only see the drawbacks you have when you're working together with other people which would be that when multiple minds are working together you are bound to have conflicts in your ideas. Brainstorming may provide you many ideas to work on but the fight on leadership is always there when good minds are working together. Who gets to be the leader? Who gets to decide everything? This mostly happens where there are people working in a team and all those people hold that sense of leadership. One has to wait for their partners to finish their work so that their work may be considered completed as well because when in a team you are bound to be dependent on your partners or co-workers.

But as mentioned before nothing is always with all cons or pros. The good side of team working is that your communication skills get polished. One gets to have so many minds to work together on the same thing to get better ideas than when working alone, gets to share the cost and sense of responsibility and is motivated when they see others working on the same thing they find themselves procrastinating on. When the group achieves success the excitement is indefinable on how the success is supposed to be a shared prize and when the members hold a sense of sharing it can prove to be a good thing.

Usually it all depends on the type of people you are working with. If you have good minds working with you the success can prove an excellent achievement and if individual minds are working as a team then they may prove to make the worst out of their achievement by asking for their share of the prize and conflicts take place.

Conflicts and Rivalry:

In my past year of life I learned how friendship can be put to test in this said golden age. How conflicts and rivalry take place and how you lose something and then learn to endure the loss and move along. It mainly all happens because of the competition that we are given as students that friends start sharing a sense of rivalry for each other. Because of this competition put in between, everyone is caught up in a race to leave the other behind, to prove their selves better, to gain what everyone is trying for. Having so many people to try for the same goal one realizes how hard life can prove to be, how hard winning can be even for the winner. When one realizes how his gain resulted in someone else's loss it is not satisfying enough seeing the one who lost was someone who was dear to you. In this race for success in life we learn how worldly relations come to end with the passage of time when you keep trying for yourself. We learn we are selfish beings but we also realize that it's not something we should hate ourselves for. Human race has always tried to prove itself better among its fellows just to get the satisfaction of knowing they did it. This is the race of being better, race of winning between the curious minds we have as humans.

Conclusion:

This is all we face in our student life and are taught how to cope with humanity that arises within us for others. We are taught to be professionals and put those feelings aside to learn the ways of making ourselves better. To win that race in which thousands participated along us. How to put forth the best of us and what can prove to be better for us and how we can the best of that better.

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Handle Change and the Stress Associated With It

Sometimes it feels like everything is changing! Today, many of us feel like we are being met with both major and minor life changes at an increasing frequency. Of course, the fact that people deal with these adjustments on a regular basis doesn't always mean that they are prepared to handle them. Some people feel like they haven't been able to adjust to one life change before the next is thrust upon them! Even those of us who are most equipped to handle whatever life brings can feel out of control and overwhelmed in the face of change. These feelings can easily lead to feelings of stress and negativity that harm our ability to work through our new situation.

One of the many reasons that change is viewed as a stressor is that many people see change as a negative occurrence. Even a small adjustment to a person's daily routine can seem like a threat to their stability and security. Changes, even truly negative changes, are only as bad as you perceive them to be. A person will cope with change best when they take time to examine their situation and recognize that things could be worse. In fact, many of the changes that may seem negative when they occur actually have positive effects on our life. Have you ever lost your job? If so, you know that this is a truly stressful time filled with financial worries and job searches. However, losing one job gives you the opportunity to find another! The next one could always suit you better, offer more flexible hours or better pay, or simply make you happier. The same is true with relationship changes, location changes, and many other situations that people face on a regular basis.

Of course, knowing that even negative changes can have positive outcomes is not enough to alleviate all change-related stress. Here are a few ideas to keep in mind when you are faced with a large change:

o Change is inevitable. Even if we try to keep our life completely stagnant, we cannot control the outside forces that impact us. Recognizing that change will occur can help us prepare for the event.

o It is almost impossible to know the outcome of change. Some changes will be for the better, while others will be for the worse. Even those changes that you expect to have a truly negative impact on your life may bring you a positive experience. In fact, changes offer you an opportunity to take charge, be creative, and work towards the best outcome possible!

o Stress is a natural side effect of change. Stress lets you know that you are invested in your life, and is your body's way of letting you know that it is time to respond to your surroundings. The stress will subside as soon as you have begun to act and adjust to the changes you are experiencing.

Often, the stress that we feel is worse than the situation that we face during times of adjustment and change. Handling the way that you feel is usually the first step in adjusting to your new situation, new responsibilities, or new status. One of the best things that you can do for yourself, and for the people around you, is the build a support network. Everyone should have a number of friends and peers that they can rely on during times of change and stress. Your friends are often able to help you gain perspective on your situation, and may even be able to help you work through some of the struggles associated with change. A good support network will help you find the positive aspect of any situation, and help you to give your new circumstances a fair shot. Of course, some people may need more than the advice of a trusted friend or family member. If you are having a truly difficult time adjusting to a new life circumstance, or feel that you have a history of difficulty adjusting to change, you may want to seek professional guidance. A trained counselor can help you work through your current problems, target and work through any underlying issues, and gain the confidence to handle life's changes in the future.

Nancy Travers, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, specializes in all types of relationships; dating, existing relationships, family relationships, and relationships with friends and business relationships. She also helps her clients overcome anxiety and depression through talk therapy as well as through hypnosis. What sets her apart from many other counselors is that she has counseled in the gay/lesbian community for over 10 years. She also has experience counseling families with elder care issues. Nancy has been in practice for over 15 years and can provide you with the tools you need to approach dating and relationships with confidence. Visit her website at http://www.nancyscounselingcorner.com/.

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Don't Allow Your Fears to Interfere With Your Goals

Recently, a colleague asked me how I faced my fears when I started my life coaches association and I really had to stop and think about it. I asked her what kind of fears was she thinking of. She replied, "fear of no one signing up (rejection), fear of making a mistake, fear of looking stupid, and fear of not appearing professional.

I had to admit that I had all of those thoughts but I knew what I wanted to do and I just forged ahead with it. "Feel the fear and do it anyway" was my motto.

So let me ask you... what are you afraid of? What fears are preventing you from moving forward with your dreams, or doing your great work? If you can identify them, you are on your way to overcoming them. Then think about the following:

Was Donald Trump afraid of looking stupid when he went bankrupt the first time?
Was Princess Diana afraid of making a mistake when she divorced Prince Charles?
Was Abe Lincoln afraid of looking amateurish as President when he refused to allow the southern states to secede from the union?
Was Gandhi afraid of looking stupid when he went on a hunger strike?
Was Mark Zuckerberg afraid no one would sign up when he started Facebook?

I'm sure you can think of more examples and the answer to all of these questions is no. All of these people did what they knew they had to do regardless of the consequences. They believed in themselves and they believed in their dream. And this is what you need to do in order to overcome your fears. When you look at it that way it isn't so hard.

Believing in yourself and believing in your dreams should be easy. Instead of focusing on fear, focus on your passions, goals, and desires. It's just a matter of shifting your attention, which is the great Law of Attraction technique. Attracting what you want is based on what you have your attention on. It's not that hard to shift your attention, is it?

Of course not! This is how you overcome your fears. Identify them, face them openly, acknowledging them, and then shift your attention to what you need to do and take inspired action.

Remember that all successful people had many failures before they became successful. That's because they took action that they felt compelled to take in spite of their fears and misgivings. When they failed, they used it as a learning curve, or stepping stone to the success they desired. Don't be intimidated by successful people, be inspired by them. Face your fears and get on with your great work.

The world will not be complete unless you share the gifts you came here with, and act on your hunches and gut feelings as to what you came here to do. Listen to your inner guidance and follow your dream into your own reality. When you believe in yourself, you can trust the Universe to work everything out for you.

Jeannette Koczela coaches solopreneurs who want to get more clients, grow their business, and make more money. By subscribing to her newsletter you will receive inspiring articles every week. You will also receive her Empowered Spirit Coaching Success Kit including her report "3 Secrets to Attract Your Ideal Clients," by visiting her website http://www.empoweredspiritcoaching.com/.

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Making Living Life Quotes A Power Tool For Your Life

Words are something that we receive an abundance of on a daily basis. They also hold a lot of power and have a great influence on our life. Unfortunately we don't apply these words to make the best of living life to its fullest. We all enjoy hearing living life quotes because they make us pay attention as they seem to be words of wisdom. It's as if there is something magical about them. Knowing this we still miss out on applying the power of this wisdom to set or change our paths in life.

If you really are looking for a great resource that is free then simply start taking a look at living life quotes then discern what they mean and where you could apply them to your life. This may seem a little strange at first but once you start applying to your lifestyle you will be amazed at how your thinking begins to change.

If you are like most people when you head hits the pillow at night and your mind is racing its probably focusing on all the things you didn't get done today, or how you are going to pay the car insurance tomorrow. This really is not a wonderful way to drift off into blissful sleep. Try focusing on a living life quote. Hopefully its one that you have applied for the day and now during this quiet time you can reflect back on it.

Just to give you an example, a old Cherokee Indian proverb states, "don't let yesterday use up too much of today." Now this is a cute saying isn't it, but think of its impact! How many of us dwell on what took place yesterday and most often it's the negative aspects. Perhaps you had to sit in a doctors office yesterday for two hours. How many times have you relived those moments today by telling friends how long you had to wait. Most likely each time you relate the story you start to get agitated all over again. How many moments of your life today did you waste on the mishaps of yesterday? Just giving this one living life quote a little extra thought could change your perception on life and go a long way in reducing your stress, and making better use of what today has to offer you.

Now is your time to begin living life the way it should be.

Living life quotes can have a major impact on your life. Be sure to check out some of these great resources to help you live life more abundantly.

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Want to Be Successful? Motivation Hypnosis Can Help You Do It

Everyone wants to be successful, but not everyone has the motivation and the ambition to do it.

Or do they?

Maybe you think that you don't have what it takes to succeed because you've tried to set goals and failed, or you've tried to give yourself a motivational boost and couldn't stick with it. While those tactics are a good start, they simply aren't enough. If you want to make success a regular part of your life, you can't just consciously work at it. Instead, success has to come from your subconscious mind - so that it becomes a matter of habit, rather than just dumb luck. After all, your subconscious mind is responsible for the majority of your thoughts and actions. Without its cooperation, it is difficult to succeed.

Motivation hypnosis is the only tool that focuses squarely on your subconscious. When you delve deep into your subconscious utilizing hypnosis for success, you can take care of problems that you may not have even known existed - but that are holding you back from achieving your goals. Your subconscious may even be holding you back from making goals altogether!

A big part of using hypnosis for increased ambition means eliminating your subconscious fears. For example, if your subconscious mind believes that you cannot handle that upper-management dream job, it may prevent you from even applying for it in the first place! Consciously, you may think that you just didn't have enough ambition to get a resume and cover letter together, when, in reality, your subconscious fears are holding you back.

So, how do you combat that?

During a motivation hypnosis session, you will work to re-train your subconscious so that it believes in you and your abilities. When you use hypnosis for motivation, you may also be told to visualize yourself with a variety of successes. Seeing yourself with that perfect job, that perfect romantic partner, or that perfect home may be the boost your subconscious needs to start actively trying for bigger and better things.

As soon as your subconscious has more faith in you, you will start to see a drastic difference in your life. You will start to see a stronger drive, set more concrete goals, and have more of an idea about how to achieve them. Other people may credit your changes to a boost in motivation, but you'll know the truth. Thanks to hypnosis for motivation, you'll simply tap into the ambition you had in your subconscious and bring it to the surface!

The motivation that you think you don't have might actually be hidden in the depths of your mind. Motivation hypnosis can help you find it and put it to good use!

Eli Bliliuos is the founder of The New York Hypnosis Institute. He specializes in helping clients improve motivation and ambition.

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Why Bad Thoughts Are So Bad

Thoughts are energy in motion, and the quality of our thoughts colors not only the energies around us but also the energies within our body. Want to avoid ill health, wrinkles, loneliness, depression? Watch what you're thinking about! That's right, watch your thoughts, be conscious of every thought that goes through your mind.

Your belief system shapes your thoughts without you even being aware of this fact. If you're one of the few lucky ones who've had a happy childhood, you're more likely to have a positive inner belief system. You're more likely to have a positive image of yourself and of life. The others, the less lucky ones will more likely suffer from insecurities, low self-esteem, fear and a chronic negative outlook on life. If you were brought up with parents who were constantly battling with each other, and fighting for their existence, you'll grow up believing that life is hard and difficult and you have to fight your way through to exist. You will probably also have a negative belief system about relationships which makes it difficult for you to have and maintain a happy relationship with a partner and you'll more likely than not suffer from low self-esteem and have no self-love.

Whatever the reason may be, in this article I'd like to focus on how and why negative thoughts are so bad for you. The reasons are many and I'll begin with your health because that is the most important for all of us. Your health should be on top of the list for without it you can literally achieve nothing. Chronic negative thoughts have a negative effect on every cell of your body. When you think negative thoughts your brain releases poisonous chemicals that rush through your blood streams throughout your body, causing damage to your nervous system, to your organs and other tissues of your physical body. In other words every cell in your body turns negative. This might not be noticeable at first but as you grow in age, the wear and tear will show. It is believed amongst other illnesses chronic negativity can even cause cancer. Science has discovered exactly what damage negativity does to your body and in contrast how joy and laughter or even a smile can spread a rush of healing chemicals that makes the cells of your body dance with joy!

Negative feelings cover the whole gamut of human emotions, frustration, annoyance, irritability, anger, worry, anxiety and depression even, guilt, hate, stress, jealousy and fear. An overdose of any or all of these feelings over many long years will have a negative effect on your physical body. Negative thoughts and good health cannot tango gracefully together. Your immune system will suffer and you'll be drained of all your energies. And there's more harm done. Negativity leads to low self-esteem, exhaustion, drugs and/or eating disorders, extreme overeating or loss of appetite. It can also lead to loss of sleep. Negative thoughts also act as a barrier to the flow of abundance in your life. When you are in a negative state of mind you do not attract, you cannot attract anything good to you. We attract to us what energies we put out and our thoughts are energies that radiate from us. So if you harbor negative thoughts you'll be attracting negative people and negative events to you. This in turn supports your beliefs and you feel stuck and you wonder why everything seems to be going wrong for you.

How about how your negativity affects other people around you, your family, your friends, your colleagues at work. Have you ever wondered how others feel when you are wrapped up in your own misery? You must have experienced how you feel when one of your friends is negative and shares or imposes his or her bad feelings onto you. You must know how uncomfortable that feels.

This reminds me of an episode that happened to me some years ago in a Buddhist Monastery of all places! I had volunteered to cook a meal for 35 people and I had three assistant volunteers. Helga was peeling the potatoes when I was informed that there was going to be another 5 guests for lunch. So I asked Helga to go down to the cellar and to fetch more potatoes. Helga went down and fetched the potatoes but when she returned she had obviously talked herself into a frenzy! She seemed outraged, she dumped the basket of potatoes on to the table, her face red, she turned to me and screamed that she wasn't going to peel anything any more and that's not what she came for and she stomped out slamming the door so hard it made the pots rattle. We were in shock! There was total silence in the kitchen. I reshuffled the load of work and the rest of us quite shaken, carried on. No one said anything. It was an unusual outburst in such calm serene surroundings to say the least. It hurt more because in a monastery everyone lets down their guard and feels vulnerable. No one expects to be attacked or aggressed in a monastery. Of course it upset us terribly. Twenty minutes later Helga returned all smiles, she walked in all chirpy smiling from ear to ear, put on her apron and said, 'Well, now I feel much better.' I looked at her in astonishment and all I could say was, 'Helga, I'm happy you feel better. But we certainly could have done without all that negative energy which is now here in this kitchen and in the food as well. Please leave us we can manage fine without you.'

You see, it is selfish and unfair to other people for an angry person to pollute the air with their negative energy! It's like dumping trash on everyone. It is a total waste of time and energy to have even one negative thought. It serves no one. On the contrary it does more harm than good all round.

Oh and one more thing a negative person is so not sexy! There is no sex appeal in negativity.

In the past I often heard people say 'I can't help it this is the way I am. I can't change that.' I always thought that was nonsense. I don't hear that very often nowadays any more, obviously, because we know better. We know that we can change the way we think. We can make our choices. We know that we can choose to think positive thoughts instead of negative ones. Obviously there's a lot of work and effort involved but that's another article. With training you can learn to change your belief system and so change your thoughts from negative to positive.

If you are someone who even sometimes has negative thoughts, don't wait any longer do something about that now and watch how your life will change for the better.

Margo is spiritual teacher/life coach/speaker/author since twenty years. She has a PhD in the Science of Metaphysics. Her book Cosmic and Universal Laws list 269 Universal laws that influence our daily lives. It's available at amazondotcom. The Law of Thought mentioned in this article is one of the laws listed in this book. Visit Margo's website http://www.margokirtikar.com/ and read what her clients have to say. Also download her free ebook HOW TO BE A PEARL OYSTER that gives you some training to improve your positive attitude. Margo holds teleseminars and coaches one to one on line. First 15 minutes free. She's also available on skype. Contact e mail is margo@margokirtikar.com. Follow Margo on twitter.

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How Do You Quiet Your Inner Critic?

Let's talk about the inner critic. We all have one. That little voice inside that stops us from taking risks, that finds the faults in every plan, that finds something to criticize us about, even on our best day. I ran in to mine this week, probably because I was having too much fun. Whenever life is good and I am really enjoying it, that pesky voice starts up. Inevitably, before long, that voice has slammed my self-esteem and brought clouds into my sunny day. The inner critic is a chameleon, changing forms and shapes so it's hard to spot it. Perhaps your inner critic has become so loud that you are actually outwardly critical of others and terribly critical of yourself. As you read this, you may hear your own inner critic, who will either be denying every sentence ("Oh no, I am so OVER that!") or using it as ammunition ("See, one MORE thing to work on...I am NEVER going to get it together!). Stay with me till the end, and you will have some tools to disarm and transform the inner critic.

1. Give it a Face

The inner critic is so insidious because it poses as you. Many of my clients ask me how to distinguish between their own voice and the other voices, the critical voice, the needy child, the rebel, or their parent's voices. The way to start sorting out the thoughts in your head is by noticing which thoughts belong to which part of you. Your needy child part will sound very different than your rebel part, though they may be saying the same thing. Giving the inner critic a face helps you to identify it, and not let it trick you into believing it tells the truth about who you are. What does your inner critic look like? Is it a he or a she? Is she a stern school teacher or a pushy boss? Is he tall, short, bony or fleshy? Is he dressed in intimidating professional clothes or does she look like a personal trainer gone wrong? Once you imagine what this voice would look like, you can begin to see that it is only a part of you, and should not have permission to drive the bus of your life.

2. Give it a Voice

When we don't listen to what's happening inside, the voices get louder and louder. This can result in nightmares (the subconscious mind trying to send you a message), strained relationships (because you start seeing other people as the problem), or, in the most extreme cases, accidents or illnesses. In the last scenario, you have moved so far away from what you really need that you body intervenes and forces you to slow down and have some time to reflect on your choices to this point. Unfortunately, many people spend their recovery time hopped up on pain-killers and other meds, and then they dive back into their lives, so they miss the chance for self-reflection that accidents and illnesses provide. In this step, we acknowledge that we carry innate wisdom, and we have to make time to listen to the voices inside. You inner critic has something to tell you, and if you look behind the attack ("You are so lazy/ugly/stupid/dowdy" etc.) you will see that this part of you is trying to protect you in some way. Listen to your critic, without taking to heart what he or she has to say. You may notice that the voice is one you inherited, that you are simply repeating to yourself something someone else told you a long time ago. Instead of ignoring the voice, give it some defined airtime.

3. Make it Redundant

What happens when companies modernize? When self-serve kiosks and automated ticket machines show up, someone's job becomes redundant. When machines can do what used to be done by human hands, someone gets replaced. We don't like when that happens, but we accept it as part of an evolving society. Your task at this phase is to let your inner critic know his job has become redundant. Why? Because you are looking to fill a new position for a person that will point out the wows in your life. You are looking for someone who will show you opportunities and help you to distill the facts so you can make informed choices without feeling bad about yourself. You can thank your inner critic for his or her years of service, and let her know that you no longer require her skill set. You can make him an offer to move departments, and he can now be in charge of warning you when something genuinely dangerous is about to happen (since she is so good at spotting problems!) It may seem strange to you to have an actual inner dialogue, but just know you would be having one anyway. Usually, the internal dialogue leads to feeling either stuck, paralyzed, or discouraged. In this step, you are bringing that conversation to consciousness.

4. Welcome it Home

All parts of us developed out of of a particular life experience. The inner critic forms to protect the enthusiastic, optimistic part of ourselves that all children have. At some point, that part got burned, and out of that hurt emerged the critic. The critic's role is to make sure you don't look foolish and to help you succeed. Unfortunately, it's style and approach are usually more harmful than hurtful. When you welcome the critic home, when you make space for it's voice without the pressure of the formal job description it has always had, it becomes a useful and important part of your inner dialogue. Some teachers advocate banishing parts of ourselves that no longer serve us. I believe that this model does not work. We can see an example of this if we look around at what is happening in the prison system in democratic countries around the world. By just banishing the bad guy, we don't acknowledge the larger problems that contributed to him forming into that kind of a person. So don't banish your inner critic, make space for his voice, and let him know he is welcome. This will help the inner critic to transform. Just like with people, those who feel they don't belong and have nothing to lose are the most dangerous. Make this part of yourself feel like it belongs, and that you do really on the good judgement that it offers, and it will stop being a stress-bringer and start becoming a solution-finder.

This takes practice. The inner critic is in all of us, and some families raise their children with nothing but criticism. Those who are the most outwardly critical are the same people that are very hard on themselves. If it is not your inner critic that is the problem but someone on the outside who is constantly criticizing you, I would challenge you to identify the part in you that has been viciously whispering the same things, either about yourself or about someone else. And what replaces the criticism? Gratitude, of course.

And Dr. Saira provides different forums such as seminars and private counselling to help you quiet your inner critic. Learn more at http://talktosaira.com/.

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Tips on Creating a More Positive Environment

We are constantly being bombarded with information, but is the information you are being bombarded with helping you or hurting you?

Odds are you have created some type of daily routine or ritual - wake up, get coffee, read the paper, listen to the news, etc. But are you aware of what you listen to, read, or see on a daily basis actually affects you in some way?

Let me give you a good example, if you are a news watcher perhaps you turn on the news and hear a story of a baby being killed - how does that make you feel? Not exactly the best way to start your day, is it?

However, odds are, you don't change this routine and instead you allow yourself to be inundated with information that is bringing down your emotions, your mental attitude, and overall outlook on life. Not to mention, what we surround our self with actually has a physical effect on the body.

Think about your day or your daily ritual - what is in your life? Do you surround yourself with gossip? Do you watch the news or read the paper? Do you, when picking out a movie, pick the scariest flick you can find? Are your friends positive or negative in their mindset?

Here are some quick and easy tips to change your personal environment:
Don't listen to the News or Read the Papers - Instead, search for positive news stories on the internet and begin subscribing to the RSS feed of that particular place.
When picking a movie - Pick uplifting and inspiring movies - movies that touch the heart! In fact, if you ask me, I can provide you with a link to a subscription site where you can get these types of moves for around $20 per month. You get 4 movies each month and are able to keep them - NO RETURNS OR LATE FEES!
Read books that uplift, inspire, and motivate you - food for your mind.
Listen to music that relaxes you - Bach, Beethoven, Chopin, Celtic Music, Native American Music, Tony Selvage, etc. - have this playing softly in the background while you are doing house work, reading a book, playing with the kids, etc.
Take time to meditate every day - even if it's only for 10 - 15 minutes.
Don't partake in conversations with negative or gossipy people

There are so many more tips that I can provide you with, but I hope these are a good start to your creating a positive environment to live in.

Dubbed a living luminary William Constantine is a powerfully dynamic keynote speaker in the fields of; personal development, spirituality, inspiration, and motivation. For more information visit, http://www.williamconstantine.com/.

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The Triumph of Forgiveness

The change of seasons often signals a time of triumph and renewal...gently lifting our spirits and ushering us closer to the warmth of new opportunities. Every seasonal shift is a time of hope, healing, restoration and improvement. We're reminded of the certainty of love and the power of forgiveness...extreme forgiveness. The thrilling discovery of the power of forgiveness sets us free.

My friend, Kim, introduced me to a living example of forgiveness on steroids when she spoke of meeting women who forgave those who meticulously, brutally murdered their husbands, sons, fathers and brothers. Battered and bruised, the women of Rwanda were left to pick up the pieces of their devastated lives and communities, to bind up the ragged remnants of their families and country. Hearing their stories, I could only ask: "How is this possible?"

Kim made six international trips to minister in Rwanda after the genocide, arriving first in the capital of Kegali. Stunningly beautiful, Rwanda is known as "the land of a thousand hills" because of its resemblance to Switzerland. What comes most readily to mind, however, is the eruption of 100 days of slaughter in 1994 and the loss of over 800,000 lives.

In the northern border town of Gisenyi, Kim was part of a conference for women from Rwanda and the Democratic Republic of the Congo. One group of attendees lived so far into the bush and were so impoverished they actually lived naked. The ministry provided clothing; the women walked two hours to the nearest road, then they were picked up and driven to the gathering. Many others walked for hours, babies strapped to their backs. After eight or nine hours of teaching, they still hungered to receive more spiritual strength.

One woman, in particular, stood out. After Kim's presentation, this woman stood up and shared her story. In one single day, she had lost seventeen members of her family...her husband, parents, in-laws, brothers, sisters, and all of her children. Three months later, she gave birth to a child who also died. In conclusion, she announced that she thanked God for all He had done in her life and for sparing her.

My friend, Kim, walked out of the room. She had never met forgiveness at that level and was trying to find a point of balance after hearing her words. To live in joy, despite such dire circumstances was remarkable. Often, the first thing we do is to blame God.

Kim said, "We went to Rwanda to help in any capacity we could. What we quickly learned is that we were the ones who were changed; we learned what it meant to forgive. The Rwandan people became our teachers, by example. I was forever changed."

Forgiveness is a choice. Each day, the Rwandan people choose to forgive. To do otherwise is to live in bondage to anger and bitterness. Even today, they are actually mingling with many of the same people who were responsible for the deaths of their families; yet, they are choosing to forgive. Kim said, "They still celebrate and praise God and forgive people who, perhaps, never even bothered to ask for their forgiveness."

I recently interviewed Dr. Robert D. Enright, founder the Forgiveness Institute at the University of Wisconsin, who describes forgiveness as "a merciful, loving act, freely given, toward or for the person who was unfair to you. Forgiveness is an expression of the love and hope which we extend to one another." According to Dr. Enright, whenever people who have been deeply wounded can forgive, their anger, anxiety and psychological depression go down, while self esteem and hope for the future go up.

Most of us have experienced harsh words or betrayal by someone we know. The important message is that extreme forgiveness is possible. More important, the consequence of being unforgiving is that we're deprived of joyful living.

Jesus' resurrection and unconditional love demonstrate the power of extreme forgiveness. He forgives us; He died for our forgiveness. Whenever you think you've suffered an unforgivable hurt, remember the Rwandan woman whose unfathomable loss still left her healed and whole.

© Regina M. Prude, 2011 Column No. 21101-Rev

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Develop Self Confidence, Be Happy And Perform Optimally

Self Confidence Is Important To Attain Goals

Self confidence and self esteem are vital in work performance. A great deal of self confidence will help in you in your career goals. Ralph Waldo Emerson, a champion of individualism, once said "If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me". You have no one but yourself. Let it not hinder you, too, to be the best.

Building self confidence means establishing an optimistic outlook of your own self. Your thoughts principally create your reality. Having positive thoughts would encourage your mind to work competently. Then so, you will be inspired to think more, and do more. Your mind opens more possibilities to act on. On the other hand, if you have negative thoughts about yourself, your mind will tire easily. You will not have the enthusiasm to work more diligently. Circumstances will be antagonistic in this case. Building self confidence will lead you to believe that you will succeed and will help you set realistic goals which you know you can achieve. This attitude is a way of empowering yourself. With it, you ascertain that the world is with you. The power of positivity boosts your thoughts and performance. You become proficient and fulfilled.

Self Confidence Is Different From Arrogance

One way of developing self esteem is being happy and certain about yourself. It is purely different from being arrogant. You don't have to be somebody who is boastful or a whiner. Instead, you are somebody who should be a good listener and a capable doer. You know how to take responsibilities and handle tasks and you know how to be humble and supportive at the same time. You establish an active role which is helpful and inspiring at the same time.

Assertiveness and Self Confidence: A Power Combo

Being assertive is also a way to be confident. It will bring you good accomplishments. Being assertive means you are able to defend your ideas. You know the value of your ideas. You know your self-worth. You are not easily distracted by what other people say against you. You are not easily stressed out by their malicious comments. You stick to your own convictions.

It is important that you believe in yourself. You need to be assertive and self confident so that you will be able to pursue your goals. Having a high self confidence is a plus factor. Self confidence brings out the best in you and leads you to perform optimally at work and in life.

By the way, do you want to learn more about leadership in your company? If so, download your FREE ebook here: Guide to Elegant Courage Leadership

Jodi and Mike specialize in executive coaching with individuals and teams. http://lighthouse-leadership.com/

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If You Don't Change Your Life, Who Will?

The human mind is an amazing thing. It can motivate you with imagination, or helplessly paralyze you with fear. Most people are where they are in life because that is where their mind tells them they are supposed to be. Every day you can find people with amazing abilities stuck in dead end jobs, while others with half their skill set are making millions.

You truly have the ability to change your life for the better any time you decide you've had enough with your current situation, and it all starts with what's going on in the space between your ears. As soon as you banish from your mind the words of failure; can't, won't, and fear, replacing them with can, will and courage, you're on track to changing the current course of your life. It's amazing what kind of change you can perpetuate in your life once you believe in your mind that you can accomplish something. It's why you hear life coaches; whether they are fitness, financial, or business, preach the value of sitting goals and visualizing yourself already accomplishing them, even before you've taken the first step toward attaining them. They know that if you can visualize success in your mind, the hardest part is over.

Unfortunately, human beings find it much easier to visualize the negative than the positive. We tell ourselves that we can't get the promotion, we'll never have the money to live the life we want, and we won't be able to retire early. And, we're not surprised when each of these becomes fact. Many erroneously believe it's wrong to imagine good things for themselves, when having the things we want most in life needs to be attained first in our minds and clearly pictured every step of the way in order to get to the goal line.

Like the junior high boy who doesn't go ask the pretty girl sitting across the gym floor to dance because he's already faced the embarrassment of rejection in his mind, many of us go through life never taking the risks that would have led to success, for exactly the same reason. It's much easier to tell ourselves that we'll never get a break, aren't good enough, weren't born into the right family or circumstance, or any number of other excuses.

If you seriously aren't happy with where you are in life, you are in possession of the most amazing asset you will ever need to change your circumstances, and it's been there all the time. Make a conscious effort to identify the negative images that you have in your mind, that are holding you back, and replace them with positive images of success. You may be really mad at yourself at first when your life begins to take an upward swing, realizing you had this power all along, but it's never too late to find the happiness and success you deserve. Plus, knowing it was you who was responsible means you now have the recipe for a rich future, and it begins in your mind.

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Showing Up In Your Life

I am always surprised how many people are not following up and don't even show up in life. For instance, I offer three coaching sessions per month, but ironically, only 1 or 2 people show up for their respective appointments. No matter what tips and tricks I use to inspire them, they are meaningless until they make a solid commitment to show up on a regular basis. People don't realize that each time they promise to do something and they don't honor that commitment, they do a disfavor to themselves, other people and also to the universe.

On a personal level, not Showing Up can result in losing a once in a life time job opportunity or losing crucial grades by not showing up on time to exams. On an interpersonal level, not showing up will surely weaken your social relationships, for example, not showing up at your child's birth or not being present at your best friend's wedding. And when talking about the effects of not showing up on a universal level, they can be very diverse. Suppose you are a celebrity and your part is to show up at events that contribute to global peace and hunger. If you don't understand the importance of making an appearance at the respective event, then you will be doing a disfavor to the universe and all of humanity.

Showing up is the first step to your success. If you don't show up at your best you may lose an opportunity or the life changing contacts that you could attract. Keeping your commitments also includes being ready and prepared to share your authentic self, your power and your special gifts with the planet. Whether it is art, music, communications, computer skills, sports or cultivating great relationships, sharing your gift is a part of showing up. So if you want to be successful in life, be it on a personal or professional level or even in your relationships, all you have to do is Show Up.

Unfortunately, in this prevalent society, the people who generally show up too often are usually discouraged by their family and friends who want to keep the status-quo and do not want the harmony of the group disrupted. But my suggestion to you all is not to listen to people who stop you from doing the right thing, no matter if they alienate you or think ill of you. The more you make the effort to show up, the bigger difference you can make in the world and be yourself, even if you disturb or offend your friends. So be true to yourself, your commitments and show up.

To your Success,

Nadine Lajoie
http://www.nadineracing.com/

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The Power Behind Negative Thinking

I have had a healing practice for close to 25 years. And during this time I have worked with many 1000s of clients.

I was thinking the other day about what is a common theme for many of my clients. What is it that they come to me for and what is it that they wish to change.

And the answer that I came up with is - Why is it, my clients ask, that I am so much better at getting what I do not want then I am at getting what I do want.

My clients will say that they are aware of the Law of Attraction. They know that what they think of a lot will come to them in their lives.

They say that they do positive affirmations. They will take affirmations from books like Louise Hay and apply them to their lives.

They say that they will meditate on a regular basis and have used visualizations to see what they want to manifest in their lives.

Yet they still seem to be more expert at manifesting what they do not want then in getting what they do want.

How to Manifest Anything

There are three primary steps in the process of manifesting.

The first step is to have an exact picture of what you want. There are a number of ways to do this. You can write lists, you can do visualizations, you can set up vision boards etc...

The common element in all of these activities is that it is a mental process. You need to engage your mind to set the process in motion.

The second step is the application of your will. In this step you remain focused on the goal. You remain committed to the process and you maintain your vision. You continually maintain this vision and you maintain it without any doubt.

The last step in the process is the use of emotion. You can keep an exact picture of what you want for as long as you want. But if there is no emotion behind this effort then there will be very little results produced from your efforts.

Emotion is the "secret sauce" behind manifestation. Without it nothing will come into being. If there are two competing wishes being worked on, the one with the most emotion tied to it will be the one that becomes manifest.

Emotion is the Secret

If you can have a burning emotion associated with something then it will be manifested. Even if your image is not exact and your focus is not steady you will attain what you associated with strong emotion.

And that is why most people get what they do not want.

For some reason we are able to associate very strong emotions with feelings such as anger, hate, despair, unworthy, abandonment, failure, jealousy, insecurity, fear and on and on and on...

But we do not seem to be able to sustain strong emotions around positive ideas such as success, abundance, good health, a happy family, good relationships etc...

I have seen people hold onto intense feelings of anger and rage for years. With these feelings as the focus of their attention it is no wonder that they bring negative events into their lives. And of course these negative events just fuel the feelings of anger and rage. What a downward spiral it is.

Other than from reading about the ultra successful, I have never heard anyone talk about being singularly focused with intense passion on becoming, successful or healthy or happy or whatever...

I have seen people blot out all reason while being consumed with despair. Yet, other than reading about it, I have never seen anyone totally consumed with being healthy or happy or successful.

What to Do

The purpose of this article was to uncover the tremendous power behind negative thoughts.

We now know that the primary force behind manifesting is strong emotions. And we know that, for the most part, strong emotions are easily tied to negative thoughts.

From this knowledge I can see that there are two courses of action available. The first is to work at defusing the emotions attached to these thoughts. And the second, and I think easier, approach is to start eliminating these negative thoughts from our minds.

If you find it difficult to stop negative thoughts from taking over your emotions then feel free read some of these energy healing articles. Or for a no cost evaluation just Contact Janet Erickson.

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How to React Professionally to Negative Comments in Your Article

Everyone is free to express their opinions. Exhilarating feeling, once we received a good feedback, and feel disappointed over a discontented comment. You are writing because you have good reasons to be on this profession. In general, you are fully responsive to reader's needs, and to provide them with the highest quality information for their personal growth, advancement, and empowerment. Don't shove yourself to be a good writer at an instant, it is not like striking at a ball with a club in a single complete movement. You are required to observe and feel before putting it into writing. Every opinion is supported by an argument, and this is how your defensive reactions will be tested.

Be Open-Minded. Every now and then, we will be facing up a disgraceful events. We are living in a world where partiality is common, that is why we are easily impressed emotionally by what is said or written. Always think that your readers are promiscuous, and that their comments are ecumenical. Always think that you are not favorably singled-out among other writers to have received such negative comments. This kind of mind-set will help you to quell self-pity and fear of writing again.

Be Critical. Be your own critic. A careful evaluation and re-reading of your article could find unnoticeable errors and flaws that you could change and improve for a best reading result. This also attracts good feedback from your readers. It is like reflecting your image into the mirror, and see if you are well-groomed before showing up. You cannot please everyone, instead, be professional in accepting their insights.

Ruling Out. During our school days, we are given rigorous disciplining, and we are conditioned into the method of selecting and eliminating to get the best answer to the question. The same thing in reading comments from your article. You need to sort things out to know what comments are being constructive or an abusive ad hominem attack. If comments are snarky, you could eliminate by ignoring it from your thoughts, as they are only creating a confusion. If it is a constructive criticism, it can be consummated by citing a helpful suggestions which you can be thankful.

Redeeming From Insult. To allay a sagging spirit from a spiteful comment, why don't spend your time in writing another interesting article as a make-work. Your murmuring will turn into fulfillment once you release a gutsy talk of your feelings, and will find yourself back again in the stream of writing.

Considering Squeeze Play. Imagine yourself playing in a baseball competition, wherein your critics are your secret allies and playing as the batter. Eventually, not realizing it, that for every comment entered into your article is like a bunt on the pitch that could help you score for a home run, and safely touch home base of the writer's league. For in numerous attempts of writing could become an acquired habit for writing confidently. Always think that you can write, and could deliver a helpful article to your readers. Simply prove to yourself that you can write effectively.

I am a father, a poet, and simply writes at my most inspired moments. You may visit my blog at http://pinoylifefacts.blogspot.com/.

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