When You Become Sick - What Is the First Thing You Should Do to Become Healed?

Whether it's a headache, a stomach ache, or something worse, what should you do to become healed? The answer varies depending on the person and the situation. Some people head for a doctor, others for a pharmacy to buy an over-the-counter preparation they hope will help, some do nothing and hope for the best, while others seek healing through spiritual healing or prayer.

If one method of healing doesn't work, many people will try one thing after another until they find something that will give them relief. It isn't always easy to know what to do or where to go to seek healing because a person's choices can be overwhelming. Consider:
Medical practitioners are practicing medicine in over 200 recognized branches of medicine, and there are a great number of practitioners in each branch of medicine.There are over 300 types of recognized alternative healing methods a person can choose from.There are thousands of over-the-counter medications waiting to be bought.

With all these options available, how can a person know what to do? How does one choose? Is there one, just one very important thing that everyone should do first in order to help themselves feel better and hopefully become healed? If so, what is it?

The very first thing that everyone should do when they become sick is to adopt a positive attitude. You can't always help what happens to you, but you can always choose what to do about what happens to you. You can decide how you will behave in a situation, if you will act positively or negatively, if you will do everything you can to help yourself become healed or if you will sit around and do nothing, often crying and feeling sorry for yourself in the process.

There are benefits to behaving positively regardless of how dire your situation may be. or how difficult it may be to behave positively. Following are a few examples of how being positive or negative can help move you towards or away from healing. In the examples, the positive choices and actions are listed at the beginning of each example and the negative choices are listed at the end of the example.

As you read the examples below ask yourself which of your actions (positive or negative) and which of your behavior choices (positive or negative) would:
Help you to feel better and benefit you - or do the opposite?Help you to heal and become whole - or delay healing?Make people want to be around your and/or help you - or avoid you?

Then you can decide if you want to adopt a positive attitude or just be miserable about the situation (a negative attitude).

Example #1 - HEADACHE: Take an over-the-counter headache preparation to relieve the pain (if it is safe for you to use) OR do nothing and suffer?

Example #2 - CANCER: Seek medical help, pray, use additional alternative healing methods if indicated OR cry, feel sorry for yourself, complain, don't do what the doctors say, lay around waiting to die, and suffer, suffer, suffer.

Example #3 - AUTOMOBILE ACCIDENT WITH INJURIES: Follow the doctor's orders, go to physical therapy, take your medications, be cooperative with and pleasant to those attending to your care OR crab, complain, and be uncooperative about everything; dwell and meditate on each ache and pain, whine about your suffering, don't take your meds, feel sorry for yourself, and etc., etc., etc.

Example #4 - LOSE 20 POUNDS: Be cheerful as you plan your diet. If you can't be cheerful, then at least act cheerful. Acting cheerful even when you don't feel that way will help a lot as acting cheerful changes the chemistry in your body in a positive way and will actually help you to begin feeling cheerful. Eat low-calorie nutritious meals and snacks; exercise, and look forward to the new "20-pounds-thinner" you OR complain and gripe about the things you can't eat, whine frequently (or constantly) about how hungry you are, crab about your clothes being too tight, envy others because they can eat what they want and look good and you can't, and on and on and on.

No matter what happens to you, you always have a choice about your thinking and your behavior, whether you realize it or not... a choice to be positive or negative. Positive attitudes and behaviors don't just happen. They are often the result of discipline and practice, but are well worth the effort because of the good outcomes they produce.

If you choose a positive attitude and follow through with positive behavior you will feel better, help yourself to heal and become whole, and people will like being around you.

If you choose a negative attitude and have accompanying negative behavior, chances are your condition will worsen, healing will be delayed, and people won't want to be around you or help you.

So remember, when you become sick, the first thing you should do in order to become healed is to adopt a positive attitude that will lead you to positive action that will lead you to healing and to people wanting to help you and be around you.

Grace Michael has learned how to use and apply the great powers and benefits inherent in positive thinking to first heal herself and then help others to become healed and improve their lives. Positive thinking and positive behavior are ingredients necessary to healing. In addition to being a researcher, teacher, and author in spiritual healing, she is a metaphysician and spiritual healer helping others to achieve and realize greater health and success in their lives. You can learn more about Grace at http://www.affirmationhealing.com/.

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Why Should I Go to My High School Reunion?

To Go or Not to go? It is always interesting to see how people have changed, stayed the same, moved on, stayed put, are friendly, still "stuck-up" or are generally happy or struggle with their lives. We find it fascinating and yet it may be difficult if you learn that former classmates, family members or military buddies are facing their own personal troubles. But, ultimately, everyone comes together not knowing what to expect, yet wanting to catch up and enjoy the ambiance our youth for a few hours.

Reunions give us these moments in time to experience. We get to revisit and reunite with friends and family we otherwise may not have the opportunity or ability to see. More often than not, we don't get such chances to connect with old friends and family, unless such events are formally planned by others or happen inadvertently or spontaneously.

Why should reunions be important in our lives? I believe they give us important periodic assessments of our own lives. To see if we are living up to our personal expectations and desires. If not, perhaps it encourages us reevaluate and readjust. Conversely, we may realize that we are happy with our lives, friends and abilities and decide to accept and try not to worry about what we haven't accomplished.

Why shouldn't we miss reunions? It is very acceptable and enjoyable just to catch up with former classmates only at reunions. Due to many reasons, that may be all that works for some. Especially for family reunions. As the saying goes, "You can pick your friends, but not your family." The same holds true with classmates. Perhaps they are great at intervals, just not on a regular basis. However, if you miss a reunion, you loose an important personal milestone that you can never relive.

Likewise, don't feel the need to get together in between reunions, just enjoy the time you have together at reunions. Many of us with busy lives go to reunions that, at a minimum, allow us to meet every decade or so. That's fine too.

What if I am disappointed with my reunion? I tell people not to get upset at reunions if it doesn't pan out as well as they expected. People are trying to get in many conversations with as many attendees as possible in a short time. I have heard from some of my alumni that they felt slighted at the reunion and vow never to return to another. My response is, "Don't ever say never." Try to realize that people/situations/attitudes are constantly changing. To feel anger or strong disappointment because of a few negative or uncomfortable encounters, is unnecessary and not important. I promise, your experience and the people will be completely different the next time. Just like life, expect the unexpected, but make your moments count.

© Linda Johnson Hoffman, The Reunion Planner® http://www.reunionplanner.com/. Follow Linda on Twitter, The Reunion Guru: http://twitter.com/TheReunionGuru

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Why SHOULD You Focus on the Positive?

"Nothing in life matters quite as much as you think it does while you are thinking about it."~ Kahneman and Thaler

I know that I have been guilty of preaching about how you can focus on the positive, assuming that that is something that you want to do. Not convinced? I understand. Let's talk about that.

I'm going to surprise you here. What I want to discuss is not research about positivity, but about how focus works. One of the principles of Appreciative Inquiry is the Poetic Principle, which suggests that what we choose to focus on will grow. That of course, is exactly why I advocate focusing on the positive. If positivity is good for you, (and research suggests that it is) what could be better than making it grow?

Whenever our attention is drawn to something, psychologists have found, that thing feels important, in ways that we don't consciously sense. It's a quirk of our brains. One way to think about it is to visualize the design of some virtual graphical interfaces: When you scroll over icons on a screen, the one under your cursor enlarges to look bigger than the others.

In the same way, when you think about something positive, the accidental meeting of someone important in the coffee shop, for example, its consequence grows. You begin thinking about how fortunate you were to run into that person and you probably make some inferences about that, such as: Whenever I get motivated to get out of my office something good happens. And you decide: I am going to get out of the office at least once a day and will always be prepared with my business cards. Guess what? Because you are expecting to have happenstance meetings and are subconsciously on the look-out for those opportunities, you do!

Why does it work that way? Part of the answer may lie in the mechanics of attention. Your attention acts like searchlights in the night sky. Your interest is magnetically pulled to the vortex of the lights-- you probably can't resist shifting your attention to those search lights, even if you wanted to, and a strong impression is made on your thoughts and feelings. Attention evolved so that we could focus on important things. We're programmed to think that whatever we've focused on must be a big deal.

It is true, that not everything we give attention to is important, but ahem... I'm not going to go into that here. But what is also true, is that we can give our attention to things that we want to be more important. That is why the WWW list developed by Martin Seligman may be so useful in helping you to develop more positivity in your life.

We are all bombarded by negativity every day by the media. The front page lands on our doorstep first thing in the morning and more bad news screams out at us when we boot up our home pages. We take a break and inevitably scan over the headlines, as if we needed more bad news.

If you find yourself overwhelmed by the negativity of the media, get a positivity fix by visiting www.DailyGood.org. The volunteer-run site highlights inspirational stories of everyday heroes and celebrities who are making a difference in the world. You will find that it is a lightening counterbalance to the heaviness of the headlines.

The bottom line? Focus on the positive and it will grow! What do you think about the mechanics of attention and how focusing on the positive can make it grow?

Dr. Lynn K. Jones--Certified Personal and Executive Coach
http://www.lynnkjones.com/

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The 12 Things You Should Keep to Yourself at Work

We all have friends at work, and we share confidential information with some of them. We might discuss a personal situation, or perhaps we share how unsatisfied we are with our boss. While I understand our workplace friendships are important, we must be careful with the information we share. Your friend has other friends, and before long your thoughts will circulate, oftentimes taking on a different form and meaning than you originally intended.

Here is a list of 12 things you need to keep to yourself:

1. I'm only doing what is necessary to keep me on the payroll.

2. Amanda does as little as possible. I have yet to figure out what she does around here. Why does she have to close the door to her office? She's a big-time slacker!

3. Why should I work any harder? The raise is standard, so it makes no difference.

4. The next person in line to be promoted is a woman. I'm not a woman, so I will do only enough to look busy during this round of promotions.

5. I'm going to "max-out" the tuition reimbursement for this year. I'm out of here next year. This place sucks!

6. It's obvious that good looks matter around here. If you are cute, you can go places. Why don't they care about performance?

7. I told IT that my computer was not working right. They did some stupid analysis, and the guy ordered me a new one. I told him I needed a MacBook, even though I really don't. I'm using it mainly for personal stuff. It's cool!

8. I had a few drinks with my manager John. I think he and his wife are having some problems - "splitsville" - from what I hear. I will bring up the subject at the company party. A few drinks will get him talking. I will make sure to give you the latest scoop!

9. I filed an FMLA case the other day. My son is going through some routine checkups - nothing serious. The doctor is a friend and I will ask him to sign the paperwork. I need a month away from here without the risk of losing my job.

10. I like having Fridays off because my wife and I do personal stuff on that day. I asked my boss if I could make up the day on Saturday, and he agreed. What he doesn't know is that I spend the whole day working on personal stuff. Heck! There are only three of us here, and we all mess around.

11. I decided that I will do zero work when my boss leaves early on Friday. She takes off at noon, and we are stuck here at work. It's not fair! It will be fun Facebooking during company time!

12. Here is something that is so crazy! I worked even less this year, and the quality of the work was not too great. Guess what, though? My raise was bigger than last year. I think I have the system figured out!

You should be careful about using company time and resources for personal use. Regardless of the situation, it is important to keep quiet regarding your negative feelings toward the company, and you should avoid circulating rumors.

I understand that we sometimes get overwhelmed with our work. When we no longer are happy or challenged, it's time to look for employment elsewhere. Avoid wasting years of your life working somewhere that is no longer a right fit for you.

Dr. Jimmie Flores,PhD,PMP,ITIL,SSBB,SPHR,GPHR is a seasoned organizational development and continuous improvement professional with 20 years of experience. In 2006, he founded the Flores Consulting Group, a company based in San Antonio, TX. Dr. Flores is also an expert in project management, ITIL, Six Sigma, Entrepreneurship, and Sports Officiating.

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41 Annoyingly Healthy Habits that you should know

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